Wellness is a journey of becoming: What healing is and how to heal yourself

Wellness is a journey of becoming: What healing really means and how to heal yourself

Published March 21, 2023

People are so fucking confused when it comes to healing!

• They think it means fixing
• They think it’s something wrong with them that must be repaired, as if they were broken
• They think it is one and done – you do it and then it’s complete
• They think it’s a prerequisite, a permission slip, that must be completed in order to move forward
• They get stuck in this endless loop – digging deeper to unearth all that is “wrong” with them, the next thing to be healed, wondering if they are “healed” yet and never truly moving forward

How do I know this?

Because I have been through every single one of these at one point or another!

And I am grateful for every damn one because each one has allowed my understanding of healing to evolve.

So WTF is healing then?

I’m going to share my understanding here, but as you’re reading I want you to notice if what I am saying feels good and right in your body. And it’s OK, good even, if it doesn’t because this gives you insight into yourself too. And this is really what life is all about – discovering what is aligned for us and owning our power!

Healing is life… it is the journey we are on… it is growth, expansion, evolution… it is the path home to ourselves… unearthing our wildness, our true nature, our highest self, our soul.

Healing is a process that is often not linear – it is more like an onion… peeling back the layers, the masks, to uncover more of ourselves and the treasures within… sometimes revisiting old familiar themes from a new angle.

Whether I am healing myself or facilitating healing for others, it really boils down to taking loving ownership of ourselves with the following 3 key practices…

1.) Awareness:

It’s pretty hard to heal something we’re not aware of. 😉 Before we can begin healing, we must first become aware. Our bodies, our behaviors and responses all give us clues when we are listening. Maybe its physical discomfort somewhere in our body or a health issue where one of our systems if not functioning optimally. Maybe it’s negative self-talk or low self-worth or projecting our anger or frustration onto others or putting up walls or keeping ourselves playing small or hidden. Or maybe it’s a feeling of being blocked or stuck. Our physical, emotional and energetic bodies are always talking to us, we just need to listen and become aware of the feeling or pattern that doesn’t feel good.

2.) Integration/Acceptance:

First, we bring love and gratitude to the part of us that needs healing… the part of us that is not aligned with our highest self. We thank it for bringing the issue our attention. We thank it for the opportunity it brings us to grow & evolve.

If it is a pattern we are seeing in the way we behave or respond, it is important to understand that these are often conditioned or learned responses that are shaped from a collection of childhood experiences. It is a part of us, our inner child, who just wants to be loved and is trying to keep us safe the only way they knew how. That part of us that didn’t know better and was not yet strong enough to make a better choice.

It is important to note that it is not the behavior or action that we are integrating here. We are not saying that the behavior is OK, because sometimes it is not. What we are integrating, accepting and loving is our humanness, the part of us that acts in a conditioned way in order to keep us safe, either because they are unaware or unable to respond in a better way. Our humanness is what we are welcoming home to our heart.

3.) Processing/Release:

We process by acknowledging, seeing and feeling the energy (physical pain, energy block) and/or emotions (fear, sadness, anger, grief, shame, etc.) that are associated with whatever we are healing. Our conditioned responses are often a way to avoid or repress these feelings. When this energy is stored, it results in blockages and dis-ease in our physical, emotional, mental and energetic self, impacting our ability to function optimally. When we process, untangle and release we can holistically improve all aspects of our health. Often when we process in one area, we see improvements across multiple planes (i.e., untangle energy blockage in solar plexus and shoulder pain resolves).

Healing is a journey of becoming! 

Healing is a continual evolution that incorporates awareness, integration and processing. It allows us to evolve and move forward with greater alignment… with a knowing of what is nourishing and right for us… standing in our power and our truth and a little closer to the person we have always been meant to BE.

The conditioning has been with us for a long fucking time… some of mine stretches back over 40+ years! So it shouldn’t be a surprise if our knee-jerk responses surface again, sometimes with a different or deeper angle.

The process of taking loving ownership of ourselves gives us the space to choose differently… to choose wellness and aligned responses and actions. The more we choose alignment and nourishment, the easier it gets. If we stumble or fall back into old patterns, we can always move forward again with love and gratitude and welcome the new opportunity for growth.

And all this love and gratitude has a BIG fucking bonus… it opens our heart to more self-love through the acceptance of our humanness and in turn the humanness of everyone else around us.

In my energy alchemy sessions we take this journey together. I am not here to fix you (because you are not broken). I am here to help you evolve into the person you were meant to be and experience physical, emotional and energetic wellbeing. These sessions are an embodied practice – we work with the physical body, emotions, energetics and access cues from all of our senses.

My gift is an ability to connect into the collective energetic grid, so to speak, and I am intuitively guided to identify root causes and facilitate transformation in others. This may not be your superpower, but I truly believe we are all capable of healing ourselves. It is my greatest desire to help you to access your awareness, your intuition, your energy, your power, your connection with self and Universe and your ability to transform and heal yourself.

Although I have become adept at utilizing these gifts to heal myself, I still love accessing the magic of other healers. They are expanders for me because they help me to broaden my awareness and access things that I may not be tuning into on my own.

If you are ready for an expander on your journey, I would love to help. Info on energy alchemy sessions can be found here.

I’d love to hear how this understanding of healing lands for you. What resonates, what do you feel differently about and what will you be contemplating further?

Love you to the moon and back!

Rachel

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